How to help when your child in struggling with homework:
1: Allow your child to express frustration —
It’s normal for your child or teen to feel overwhelmed or angry when they are struggling. Insisting that they stifle their emotions or getting upset with them won’t improve the situation. Instead, encourage them to talk through what they are feeling and shift their emotions to a more positive direction (determination versus frustration.)
2: Get active —
Have your child take a break to clear their mind and blow off some steam. Go for a walk around the neighborhood, dance to a few of their favorite songs, or even do a series of yoga stretches for kids. Any other physical exercise like taekowndo,karate…Physical activity can get your child’s mind off their homework troubles, start blood flowing (to their brain!) and let them come back to the assignment refreshed and ready.
3: Set a Time Limit —
One thing I do with my daughter is set a time limit, after which we will put homework away for the evening. You might talk with their teacher first to decide what is a reasonable amount of time to spend on homework, and also to give them a heads up that you will be doing this. Most days we get all of my daughter’s work done in plenty of time. However, on occasions where she is having trouble or it seems like there is more work on her plate than normal, we stop when we reach our pre-determined limit and I send a note to the teacher explaining the situation.
I truly feel that kids need time to just be kids and after a certain point, forcing them to sit in a chair can be detrimental (especially when they are young).I think that this takes some of the pressure off my daughter, as she knows that she can try her hardest, but won’t be punished for not being able to finish her assignment quickly if it is difficult.
4: Enlist others help–
There is no shame in admitting that you have facing a problem during teaching your child and helping them in homework exercises..You can take others help or tuition…
Model positive body image — YOU are your daughter’s biggest influence. What you say or do will affect her more than her friends and the media combined. Avoid over-focusing on your appearance and negative comments about your body. We might not want to admit it, but there is truth to the old saying “you are your mom.” If you are confident in yourself, chances are that your daughter will be too.
Allow them to express their feelings — Sometimes even I forget that my daughters have a mind of their own (as they should!), so there are going to be times that we disagree or I don’t like what they have to say. I remind myself that their feelings are valid and they have a right to their own opinions. It is important to give them the freedom to say what is on their mind — good or bad — and keep the lines of conversation open. Starting this early on in their lives will increase the chance that they will be comfortable enough to confide in you during their teenage years.